Today I'm talking to Dr. Gabor Maté. A famous speaker and best-selling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, such as addiction, stress and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the body says no: the cost of hidden stress; and Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder. He is also co-author of Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in more than thirty languages.

Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time does not necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we were young and the importance of these formative years in shaping our emotional health and expectations societal issues that we always try to respond to, but have never really brought us true fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with people we admire, and how the experience of childhood varies for each child, even when raised in a similar environment.

Trauma is an injury that is not completely healed and can be triggered at any time in our lives. It is therefore important that we are able to find common ground and stand firm in what can bring us healing, emotional stability and happiness.

What we discuss:
00:00:00 Introduction
00:03:12 How do you define trauma?
00:06:32 How is healing defined?
00:08:45 Time itself does not heal emotional wounds
00:11:38 We are all born vulnerable
00:13:55 The inherent expectations we all have
00:20:00 The societal norms we try to respect
00:25:15 It is not possible to love children too much
00:29:35 Grief is essential to life
00:32:19 When the past dominates present reactions
00:35:16 There is no healthy identification
00:42:11 Why do we want things to stay the same
00:44:38 No two children have the same childhood
00:50:19 The difference between loneliness and being alone
00:53:54 How do you view human nature?
01:02:24 Suffering must be recognized
01:06:27 Close and start moving forward
01:10:04 Spirituality becomes a commodity
01:15:56 Dr Maté on the last five

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